Do you expect success to come and THEN you will become the woman who has success? Editor & Founder of Life Extraordinary Empire, Genine Howard, tells us that most of us have it the wrong way around. Instead of becoming the successful woman once we have achieved success, she suggests that you need to first ‘be’ the woman who has success – or at least plays out her life like she already has it. Success then follows.
One of the most common sayings I hear myself telling my clients is “You have the BE the woman before you can get what you want.”
What I mean by this is simple. If you indeed have goals to be a high vibrational female entrepreneur who earns 6 or 7-figures, then you first need to act like a high vibrational female entrepreneur who earns 6 or 7-figures.
I guess you could say that I am suggesting you fake it till you make it. And yes, I am.
For example, if you are plugging away at your business each day, working long hours, eating whatever you can get your hands on, rarely seeing the inside of a gym or spa, always worrying about the next sale or chasing the next client, feeling on the edge of exhaustion … this is not being the woman who is a successful high vibrational entrepreneur. There is no way you are going to get to your desired goals from this point.
Not only is the Universal Law of Attraction giving you more of what you don’t want (i.e. lack of money, lack of time, feeling sluggish and unmotivated), you cannot expand to that woman without first living out your life like you already are her.
Now I get how hard this is – especially when the current reality of your situation may well be limited funds, a lack of clients and sales, but thinking and focusing constantly on what you don’t have is getting you more of the very same.
It’s time now to be the woman you desire to be. Now. Not ‘when’.
So, how can you – dependant on your personal goals – be the woman who you desire to be?
Raise your vibration.
Each day it is imperative you raise your vibration to a level where you can attract more of what you do want. And you don’t need to spend a lot of money or time in doing so. It comes down to how you are living out your life, your thoughts and who you are showing up in the world as.
Don’t deny your desires.
We all have our own unique desires but many of us have been trained over the course of our lifetimes by our families and society to not acknowledge our desires, to push to the side with judgements of being selfish or greedy. This is the furthest from the truth – denying yourself your true desires is an act of self-sabotage and ‘un’ self-love.
Tap into your desires and play them out right here and now – even if it’s the less expensive version for now! This could be buying those shoes you have been longing for or even taking that high level program you feel aligned to.
Stay out of the ‘how’s’.
I always tell my clients to stay out of the ‘how’s’ and just BE. When you are thinking like the woman who has all the success, the beautiful business and the beautiful life that you desire, you make good decisions. You make decisions that are coming from a place of abundance rather than fear. And as we know, fear is a (generally) wasted, negative emotion that does not serve us well, particularly in the area of making good business decisions.
Stop putting conditions on your success.
It’s so common for us women to put conditions on our success. The most often heard phrase I hear is “When I’m successful then I will [insert life’s desires and fulfilment].”
If you live your life by setting conditional outcomes based on something that hasn’t even happened yet, you will never feel the satisfaction of accomplishment of success, it will always remain in ‘when’ mode. “When I have enough money I will book in for regular facials,” “When I am successful I will order fresh flowers each week.” It starts with the little things – do them now, not ‘when’.
Create daily habits of a successful woman.
It’s so important that each day you are setting your intention to BE the woman she desires to be. All successful entrepreneurs have a habitual routine they use to set their mindset daily – I have a daily routine that allows me to stay in (or move back into should the case be!) a place of positivity, gratitude and abundance. If I ever stray from my path and start feeling low vibrational, unmotivated or unclear on my goals I go straight back to my daily routine and give it a rev up. I might add something in, a new affirmation or a new meditation or I may need to revisit my goals to get clarity again.
And I will also add that dressing in your favourite clothes, getting your hair/nails/self care done regularly, buying fresh flowers, taking regular exercise and time out is the quickest way to cash and success.
Be the woman in every way you can who attracts the success and life you want … right now.
CEO & Editor Life Extraordinary Magazine
Genine Howard is a best known as a business coach, magazine editor and publisher who has created, bought and sold numerous high end magazine titles and turned over more than half a million dollars a year in revenues.
With a swag of accolades, Genine is also an author, public speaker, had a radio show and television appearances.
She is now dedicated to helping other female entrepreneurs live their most extraordinary lives teaching them confidence, branding and mindset so they can build beautiful businesses which in turn, give them a luxe, passionate, on-purpose life.